Divorce is Forgivable
Today is January 1st. A day when we tend to look back with reflection and look forward with hope.
It's a New Day. A New Year with new opportunities. This tends to require a clean slate which is why we wanted to begin this blog on the topic of forgiveness....more specifically, God forgives those who have already divorced.
My wife and I both previously divorced. It was painful. It hurt. It is a sin. Sinful actions always result in pain.
God created the covenant of marriage to bring two people together. Man pulls this apart when we choose to divorce. The separation of divorce is devastating...to each other, our children, our parents, our friends and extended families.
In Matthew 10: 2 - 12, the Bible tells us:
2 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. 3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? 4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. 5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
We wanted to bring some clarity to this passage. Some people have interpreted this to mean that anyone who divorces will always be living in adultery, or living in sin. That is simply not true. This passage says if you marry again you have committed adultery, or have committed a sin. ALL sin is forgivable, but let me explain...
In the Bible, Moses and Paul both committed murder. Once Moses and Paul saw the error of their ways and grew their relationship with the Lord, they put those old ways behind them. They stopped committing heinous sins and went on to be some of the greatest Christians ever. If God can forgive someone for taking the life of another human, then He most certainly forgives you for divorcing. If He can use murderers to further the Kingdom of God, then He can use you too! Your past does not define your present or your future. It's who you WERE, not who you ARE. By reflecting on your past, taking accountability for the role you played in the divorce, and seeking to grow your relationship with God, the sin of divorce will stop. Like Moses and Paul, you can go on to do great things for the Lord.
Why does the Bible call divorce a sin? If He didn't call it a sin then we would be free to do it as often as we like. If it wasn't a sin we would be free to marry, divorce, remarry over and over again. When Cheri and I went through our first marriages and then divorces we didn’t understand the covenant we made with God and with our exes. Now that we are closer to the Lord and understand the biblical principles of God's covenant of marriage, we would never consider divorce again. We have both repented just like Moses and Paul.
Looking toward 2019 with hope and inspiration...and a new start! Happy New Year!
Blessings to you,
Eric and Cherii